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Etiquette Of The Blow Off

We’re all guilty of this: We go out on a single to a few dates with a woman or man, and either we like them and we keep calling, or we aren’t really into it so we blow them off and don’t return their calls.

Sometimes after a first date it can be quite obvious neither person is into it, so nothing more really needs to be said. However, other times, it is quite obvious your date is very into you while you just may not be feeling it.  A lot of this uncertainty comes from the fact that people are scared to be honest to begin with. In my article about first dates, I suggested being straight forward about wanting to see the person again, and I stand by that. At the same time, I am also in favor of being honest when it comes to not wanting to see the person again.

A gentleman should always assume their date was “feeling it” and let them know that another date will not be forthcoming if that’s the case.  You don’t need to have an awkward conversion in-person, an email will suffice since you still don’t really know this person and it’s not a break-up. Just something that says I enjoyed meeting you (assuming that’s true), but I just don’t feel a connection. That way, yes they might be disappointed, but they won’t drive themselves nuts waiting for you to call, when you know you have no intention of calling.

You might be thinking, why bother? Well for one, it will make you come across as an honest, stand-up kind of guy, and they’ll respect that. They will probably find it refreshing. Second, depending what type of woman or man you’re dealing with, it may save you the eight text or voice messages that you’d get before they realize you’re not calling back.

About the author

Jamie is the Founder of The Dude Society and a New York City based web designer & developer. He really likes telling people how to think, act, and dress.

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