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You Need Chick Friends, And Here Are 3 Reasons Why

Every guy should have a circle of close female friends. Now I am not talking about a group of girls he hopes to nail at some point soon; I am talking about women who he can be totally open around without worrying how it might impact his plan to get laid in the near future. Having some good female friends can really come in handy for a variety of situations. It's not a coincidence that most gay dudes have a ton of female friends, and those guys are usually the best dressed and best groomed.

Real advice about women

Sure, getting another guy's perspective can be helpful, but let's be honest women and men have very different thought processes. So going to someone closer to the source, like another women, is probably your better bet. Tossing around gift ideas for a new girl you are dating, trying to figure out what restaurant she might like, or what kind of flowers you should send. You think one of your dude buddies is going to be helpful in that department? Probably not. Well, unless you're friends with me, of course.

Shopping for clothing

Some guys really like shopping, and some guys hate it more than anything, but in either case they can still be buying the wrong clothes. Sure, you could chat up the sales girl, and that might be a great way to get a date with her. However, at the end of the day she is still trying to sell you stuff, so you're not going to get an unbiased opinion. Next time you go shopping, take a female friend along. You can try things on and she can give you a real female's opinion. You can even return the favor by helping her pick out some items her next date might like.

Social proof

This is an important one. Having female friend who like and trust you is a great way for other females to see that you're a good non-shady dude. Whether your female friends directly try to set you up with other girls is besides the point... just hanging around with a few girls casually at bar will show other women that there must be some reason they all want to talk to you.

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Jamie is the Founder of The Dude Society and a New York City based web designer & developer. He really likes telling people how to think, act, and dress.

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5 responses to “You Need Chick Friends, And Here Are 3 Reasons Why”

  1. @dvrcdntbrkn says:

    Great post. Social Proof is excellent and it just makes you feel more confident to have an attractive woman around. It sends out a great vibe that other women pick up on.

  2. Lance says:

    Good post
    I disagree on the first point

    Bad advice is bad advice. I just ended a five year relationship with someone I considered one of the best friends I ever had. She undermined my relationship with my wife, other friends, and damaged my reputation. Having the RIGHT female friends is the key. My wife is best friend. The otehr female friends I have are unconditional. That;s important. I agree 100 percent on the otehr bullets.

    • Jamie says:

      It is certainly true that you need to take advice from each individual woman with a grain of salt… because, as having many female friends quickly shows you, opinions on the same issue can differ drastically.

      How do they ever expect us to understand them?? :)

    • Cyndee says:

      Definitely. Having the right female friends is the key. Females usually set 'territories' around their guy friends. So it is really best to have the right ones who also knows their boundaries..not females who also like you and acts as a 'bridge' to be closer to you..that is something guys should know too.

  3. I got that, Social Proof. I gotta use it more to my benefit

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