Are you man enough to handle sex toys in the bedroom? Or do you view them as a threat? Scared they may outperform you or make you look inferior? Fear not, I am about to give you the lowdown on the benefits of bringing another guest into your bedroom party and why you really have no reason to worry.
Every woman has one.
If you don’t know already, your lady friend has a sex toy. She probably has multiple sex toys. And she uses them, probably more frequently than you would think.
Take a minute and let that sink in if it was a surprise to you.
Now, realize how awesome that is and start thinking of ways that you can incorporate toys into your sex play with her. I know the idea can seem daunting if this is new territory for you to venture into. And it’s OK to have a little apprehension when it comes to pulling the trigger on bringing another source of pleasure into the bedroom besides your God-given sex toy that you are rather attached to. But this really should be viewed as an opportunity and not as a threat to you.
First, by accepting the fact that your women enjoys pleasuring herself with her toy of choice, you are realizing that she is a confident woman who knows what it takes to get herself off. That is a good thing. Secondly, by not only accepting that but by also encouraging toys in your sex life as a couple shows that you are confident enough in yourself that you can enjoy her receiving pleasure even if it’s not directly from your penis. And lastly, the two of you experimenting with sex toys together will allow you to both find new ways of pleasuring each other. Most of the toys that your woman enjoys offer some enjoyable options when used on you in creative ways as well.
You want me to do what with that?
Having something else in bed with the two of you may make you feel a little uneasy at first. You may be worried about how to use it correctly, or what not to do with it even. The best thing a guy can do is put it in her hands, literally. Chances are she will be well acquainted with the nuances of the toy and will happily oblige your request to show you how she likes to use it. In that case, you not only get to learn how she likes to use her toy, but you also get to see her giving herself pleasure and all you have to do is sit back and enjoy the highly erotic view.
When it’s your turn to give it a try, don’t be nervous. The best thing you can do is ask her if what you are doing feels good, if she wants you to do it harder/slower/deeper, if it is hitting the right spots. Her verbal and more importantly, non-verbal feedback should let you know if you are on the right track. It’s really no different than any other sex act in that regard. Don’t be afraid to experiment with using the sex toy on yourself or letting her try it out on you as well. A little vibration on your boys while receiving some oral love from your lady may be the second best thing to heaven from what I have heard. Feel free to try it out and let me know.
The Couple That Shops Together…
Although she probably has her trusty favorites in her dresser drawer, it can be a fun and sexy outing for the two of you to visit your local adult store together and do a little shopping. The variety of forms and functions can be overwhelming but don’t be afraid to ask the staff questions. I have found Adult store staffs to be the most knowledgeable sales force on the planet. If there is something that you both want to try, like a vibrator, bondage straps, or anal beads, they can point you to exactly what you are looking for.
You just have to put all the awkward “I am a pervert” feelings aside for a while and just look at it as one more way that you and your lady are building your sexual bond together. Just being in the store together surrounded by so many naughty things and world of potential can be the best foreplay. By the time you get home and get the packages open, you will be more than primed to try them out without your inhibitions getting in the way.
Introducing sex toys into the mix can add a new dimension of satisfaction and fun into your relationship. It allows both of you to give and receive pleasure in ways that you ordinarily wouldn’t be able to and empowers your lady to take matters into her own hands and that is damn sexy. So the next time your girl asks you if want to go shopping, say yes, and tell her you have a stop to make to pick up a little something special before you head home.
More to come
In upcoming articles we will tackle the intricacies of specific sexual situations: sex-etiquette, watching her get off alone, and more. In the meantime, let us know if you have any questions on what we’ve covered so far!