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Unleashing Her Inner Porn Star

I’m going to let you gentlemen in on a little secret: Inside each woman lies a secret porn star who wants to come out and rock your world. It’s true. Believe me.

So how do you make this happen?

You may be asking yourself, how do I make this happen? Let’s face it; unleashing her inner porn star would be pretty freaking awesome right? Yes, yes it would be.

What it comes down to is that she wants to let her inner porn star come out to play but is afraid of how you might react. No woman wants to go all “Girls Gone Wild” on you only to have you look at her with shock and disgust and say “what the hell are you doing, put that toy away!” As a dude, you know the chance of you reacting that way is slim to none, but I can guarantee you that she’s concerned about it. Your job in this scenario is to let her know you think she’s hot and you’re are open to and excited about what she has in mind.

She wants to be your fantasy

Your girl wants to fulfill your fantasies. Hell, she wants to be your fantasy. It’s common knowledge that fantasizing is a big part of the sexual experience for men, but we also know that most of the time that fantasy is not about us.  It’s OK; most women are long over having a problem with that fact but it doesn’t mean that there wouldn’t be an immense sense of accomplishment to know that we rocked your world so completely that we had a fighting chance at top billing in your mental fantasy file for a while. Girls have egos too you know?

That is the motivation behind unleashing the inner porn star. That and the fact that it is a hell of a lot of fun to assume the vixen/naughty nurse/catholic school girl character and unabashedly be nothing but a sex object for you in that moment.  To put on the most scandalous lingerie, the silky thigh highs, and the sexiest heels we own.  To take total control of the situation can be extremely sexy and as big of a turn on for us to act out as it is for you. It’s our moment to shine for you, to be wanted so badly by you, and do things we maybe wouldn’t normally do and make no apologies for any of it.

I’m sure you have your own most-played fantasy scenario stored mentally and on the ready to reference at any time it comes in handy for you. Pun intended. Why not share that with your girl? She may have everything needed to bring that fantasy to life before your very eyes already hanging in her closet. And if you bring it up, it gives her the permission to totally lose her inhibitions and just give it to you exactly how you want it. That is a win/win in the truest form.

Give verbal reinforcement

There are various ways you can invite her inner porn star to make an appearance.  The easiest, cheapest, and quickest way are four simple words that don’t get nearly enough air play:  “You are fucking hot.”  That’s right, boys.  The best way to encourage a girl to bare her naughtiest fantasies is to use your big boy words.  Your girl has likely given you many verbal or physical cues, hoping you’ll pick up on them.  The most important advice I can give you is to listen and respond.  If your girl asks you to spank her and you recoil in horror or just plain ignore it, you can bet she won’t be asking you again.

You might be saying, “Whoa.  I can’t even get my girl to tell me what she wants.  I’d love it if she told me to spank her.  How can I get her out of her shell?” The key to this question is listening.  Most girls, even the shyest, will say “I love it when you do that.”  It’s simple, clean, and innocent. You can bolster her confidence by assuring her that you love it too, then try to expand her horizons  by telling her what you love, and what you would love to do to her, or have her do to you.  It’s really very simple.

If your lady friend hints that she wants to try something new, or wants you to do something to her that maybe you haven’t done previously, don’t automatically assume that she is dissatisfied with what you have been doing in the past. Recognize this for what it is: her trusting you and opening up to you, inviting you to venture into new sexual territory with her.

What guy wouldn’t love to have his girl live out his porn star fantasy with him? None that I know! So keep an open mind and give her the encouragement she needs to let her inner porn star loose on you. You will most likely be very pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastically she accepts the invitation.

More to come

In upcoming articles we will tackle the intricacies of specific sexual situations: introducing sex toys, watching her get off alone, and more. In the mean time, let us know if you have any questions on what we’ve covered so far!

About the author

Lisa, aka Random Girl, is a mild-mannered professional by day, wickedly clever blogger/sex goddess/smartass by night. Lisa has very little internal filtering and is the voice behind Random Girl Blogs. She also makes fantastic chocolate chip cookies.

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12 responses to “Unleashing Her Inner Porn Star”

  1. Brandi says:

    Great article Randy!! Your living up to our naughty reputation for sure. The inner porn start is a blast to let out.

    Havent gotten a chance to get to your other article yet cause I had a busy weekend, but I will go back and check it out.

  2. Jewels says:

    It never stops amazing me how many people have a hard time telling their partner what they like or what their fantasies are. I understand the hesitation and the fear of being considered a sexual pervert but my thought is-if they aren't willing to play in the bedroom, to explore what turns me on, then it's probably not going to last anyway. Better to ask, discuss, and be open to keeping your partner happy and feeling sexy. WONDERFUL post, Lisa…another one right on the money.

  3. George says:

    I would love to see more articles in this vein. Nicely written.

  4. bruce johnsonJADIP says:

    joan jett, madonna, random girl….

    chicks of rockstar epicness, that rock my world!

    awesome post lisa!

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  5. Tony Van Helsing says:

    Excellent post and good advice. Communication is key in sex.

  6. James Holeva says:

    Lisa,

    That was fantastic, and so true. Very well written, and funny. Girls love to live out their porn star fantasies with a guy they care about, and telling her she's hot and listening to her will bring her out of that shell. Excellent job! I've always had a way of bringing the dirty out of even the most reserved broads! There's nothing a girl likes more than her boy fantasizing about her! Keep up the good work Lisa! I'm a big fan!

  7. @katsidhe says:

    So very true. Communication is an important part of a relationship and that includes communicating what the fuck you want to do/done to you with your partner's naughty bits.

    Lovely job, girlfriend.~

  8. G... says:

    Great advice – there are so many blokes out there too timid to really ask what they want…and it certainly adds that spice to any relationship.

    We all have fantasies – I'll be checking back for more great advice

  9. Lance says:

    my wife tells me "don't expect stuff, ask for it…or better yet, tell it to me!"

  10. Peter says:

    I've given up. I love my wife but she is clueless about sex and I don't see any way that is going to change. Oral sex????? Fine if its me that's performing but she would never reciprocate unless forced to do so. And yes, I'm clean and smell good and bathe every day. The lack of passion has made me near suicidal at times and if I'm honest, it's my beautiful daughters that have stopped me from leaving. I just don't know how to change this and it's killing me.

  11. This is a spot on article from a woman's point of view. Women's sexuality is a complex dichotomy in our society. The whole Madonna/whore complex can be really hard to reconcile.

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