Gentleman Or Prude?
If you ask women about first dates, you’ll hear a variety of responses: “He didn’t kiss me because he’s a gentleman,” “He kissed me but I didn’t want him to,” “He didn’t kiss me so he must not like me,” “He didn’t touch me so he must be a prude,” etc.
Being a gentleman has nothing to do with arbitrarily not doing something. Being a gentleman is about doing the right thing at the right time. You open the door at the right time, you say things at the right time, you call at the right time, and you get physical at the right time.
If you pickup on signs that she’s into you, then it is probably the right time to kiss her or make some other subtle advance. On the other hand, if you don’t think that’s the case, or you can tell she’s a shy kind of girl, then respect that. Both of these make you the gentleman.
The same goes for sex. The fact that people, men and women, make rules about having sex after a certain number of dates is absolutely nuts, and certainly not gentlemanly. Sure buddy, go with your three date rule, and try to nail every girl you go out with on the third date and see how that goes.
Would it work for some? Yeah, probably, but you’ll be none the wiser. If your end game is an actual relationship, as opposed to a fuck buddy, you’re much better off learning to sense the situation and react properly.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.