For many guys, having a strictly sexual relationship with someone seems like an ideal situation... But, is being her boy toy a game you want to play?
It may sound too good to be true, but there are women out there who really are fine just having you around for sex. There are various motivations behind a woman choosing this route, as opposed to seeking out a traditional relationship. Sometimes, it is a woman who is just coming out of a divorce or long term relationship, that is just looking for something uncomplicated yet satisfying. Sometimes you won’t even have enough conversation to find out what her motivation is. So, would be OK just being her “on-call” guy?
The boy toy is a variation on the usual No Strings Attached
situation. The primary difference being there is no mistake that you are there on her terms and for her enjoyment, it’s not a two-way street.
The Pros & Cons
The upside of being a boy toy will most likely be little to no chance that she wants you for anything other than sex. When a woman chooses her boy toy, she typically seeks out someone with whom she has very little in common, and would make no sense in a romantic relationship. That is half the appeal of it.
The downside of playing the role of boy toy is you, at some point, will likely begin to feel that it is a little too one-sided. Granted, you will no-doubt be getting off in return when the two of you have your play dates. However, chances are she will only be available to you when it is convenient for her, not the other way around. Texts will be ignored; phone calls will go to voicemail. This situation is very much on her terms and some guys just aren’t cut out to work on an on-call basis.
For some guys, the appeal of being the object of woman’s sexual desire with none of the trappings of a relationship is ideal. For others, they need a little more of a reciprocal understanding. Either way, knowing what you want out of a situation can help you decide if playing the role of boy toy could be something you want to get into, or if you are better off taking a pass on it and pursuing other options.
Tips for becoming a boy toy
- Find the right audience. Not every woman is looking for boy toy, in fact, many are looking for their prince charming... So, to up your chances of becoming a boy toy, target the right ladies. Women who are overly focused, stressed, or preoccupied with other elements of their lives, such as career or children (think, hot single moms), typically are the most likely to want, easy, on-demand sex.
- Just ask. A conversation that starts with "So what are you looking for?" can clear the situation up pretty quickly. If she starts rambling about her 5 year plan, not looking for a boy toy... If she says something like she is open to see what shakes out, just looking for someone that she can have fun with, or really not looking for anything specific (leaving it open ended) that would be a good indication that you could find yourself being her boy toy.