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Get Her To Groom Downtown Without Being A Dick About It

The styling options for your girl’s lady part 'do are almost as unlimited as the options for the hair on her head.  From Brazilian to full bush and everything in between, you never know what you might be treated to when the panties come off. But, what if your girl is sporting the full-on natural look? You fear you may get lost (or chafed) should you want to spend some time down there?

How can you help encourage a little deforestation?

This can be a tricky situation and approaching it with tact is key. There are many reasons why some women choose to stay with the natural look.  Some cite hygienic benefits, as the hair acts like a barrier from exposure to a variety of things. Maybe it is due to cultural reasons... Maybe she sees it as a sign of maturity... Or, maybe she has just never really thought about it and it has never been brought up to her. Who knows?  One thing that is for sure is that, whatever the reason, chances are she would at least consider a modification if the case was made properly. There are a few reasons men prefer the less-is-more approach to pubic hair on women. Let's be honest here, porn is likely the primary one. These days, in most porn there isn't a pubic hair to be found. While I understand it, this is a pretty selfish reason, so best not to focus on that one when making your case to a lady.

Instead, focus on the more sensory-related rationales.

First, most people who have shaved their nether regions (male or female) know that everything tends to glide better when smooth. Hence, when these isn't coarse hair in the way, sex tends to feel better. Second, a woman's parts are a little more complex than a man's, so a clear view of the situation can be very helpful. Hairy or bare, a dick is still a dick, it's not that complicated. Saying you want a clear field so you can give her your best oral performance is a way better explanation than "hey babe, shave that shit, I want you to look like the chick in the porno." Are you with me? Third, when it comes to going down on someone, nobody wants a mouthful of hair. Plus, few guys I know want to make out with a Brillo pad. Your approach will depend on a few factors such as how long you have been together and what your comfort level is with one another. The better you know someone, the easier it is to bring up potentially sensitive subjects.

So, how do you tackle this touchy issue?

Here are a few ideas:
  1. Lead by example: You need to be willing to do what you are asking her to do. You can’t be completely unkempt and ask her to go Brazilian. You don’t necessarily need to wax your business, but you should basically sport what you would like to see in return. If it’s a change from your norm it will most like not go unnoticed and may lead into a conversation about why it came about.
  2. Mention something you read or overheard:  Open with an observation or comment on an article or conversation that had something interesting to say about women’s grooming habits or trends (one example are the TV commercials for women's shavers that show actual bushes shaved into shapes). Ask her what her thoughts are on it, and listen closely to her answer. If she seems uncomfortable or defensive, might be best to revisit this another time. If she seems open, this is a good opportunity to focus on the talking points we discussed above.
  3. Just be direct: Sometimes, putting it out there as simply and directly as possible will get the job done.  Tell her straight out that you really want to bring her as much pleasure as you can and that you could do it so much better if she could help you out a bit by removing distractions and letting you get down to work.  Tell her that seeing her bare/trimmed would really turn you on (best not to mention the porn specifically). Offer to make it a sexy couple’s activity that you can do together, if you think she would be into that.
Whatever approach you choose, it is important that it be done in a sensitive, non-critical way. Girls can range from laid back to totally uptight when it comes to someone having an opinion about how they maintain their lady parts.  You don’t want to embarrass her, make her feel uncomfortable, or give her a reason to call game off on sex with you altogether. Nobody wins in that situation.

About the author

Lisa, aka Random Girl, is a mild-mannered professional by day, wickedly clever blogger/sex goddess/smartass by night. Lisa has very little internal filtering and is the voice behind Random Girl Blogs. She also makes fantastic chocolate chip cookies.

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10 responses to “Get Her To Groom Downtown Without Being A Dick About It”

  1. Not the Hero says:

    If this ever comes up I'll just email her this article… Problem solved.

  2. jewelsturning30 says:

    Not the Hero seems to have a good head on his shoulders.

    I don't know any of my female friends who don't at least keep a close trim though most go for broke and go bald. I prefer a man to be trimmed so I would think he's like the same. Save one guy who liked the wild bush look I've never had a complaint about the way I groom downtown. Great article, as always, Lisa.

  3. George says:

    You know, I never did approach the subject with my girl. I've just grown used to it. Maybe now would be a good time to bring it up.

  4. Jeff says:

    I was shaved for a long time. One night, during an intimate moment, I grabbed the razor and the cream. I took it to her expecting her to say NO!! She just watched me do it. It was fantastic.

  5. Emily says:

    Girls – Get a brazilian, have sex and the discussion will be moot. It's like you're handing your guy a treasure map with a huge star on the treasure, but you're really the one who will strike gold.

  6. dazediva says:

    Great post and fab way of putting out the ways a guy can discuss grooming habits with his woman.
    I'm all about being fully waxed and clean – and prefer my guy to be manscapped at the very least. So much more fun !

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