When you've just started dating someone it can be real easy to get mislead. You're so enamored with this girl that your usual sense of logic disappears, or you're "Booty Blinded" as it's often called.
You really don't know or trust this chick, yet you take everything she says at face value. You may be setting yourself up to be played.
Communication with a new girl can be tricky, no doubt about it. As a chick myself, I'll be honest and tell you we often don't say what we mean. It's like a minefield of words. We really should make some sort of chick translator to help you dudes out.
In an attempt to clear up some of the most commonly confused statements, I’m cluing you in with a little insider girl info. You’re welcome!
“I’ve just got a lot going on right now.”
What she means: “I would rather spend my time doing anything else than spending time with you.”
“He’s just a friend.”
What she means: “I have hooked up with this guy before but it didn’t go anywhere” or another option would be “I am considering hooking up with him in the near future but want to cover my bets and keep you around in the meantime.”
“My friends would bore you/get on your nerves/etc”
What she means: “I don’t want you to meet my friends because either I don’t think you will be around that long or I don’t want them to tell you about the shit I usually pull on guys I date.”
“This just isn’t working for me.”
What she means: “You’re boring the shit out of me.” Or, worst case scenario? “You’re not getting me off.”
Women are not the easiest creatures to try and figure out. You have my complete sympathy when trying to deal with one of us. You would hope that if they are bothering to say something to you, that it really is as simple as the words she is saying. Unfortunately, that might not always be the case.