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Chick Dating Talk: Read Between The Lines

When you’ve just started dating someone it can be real easy to get mislead. You’re so enamored with this girl that your usual sense of logic disappears, or you’re “Booty Blinded” as it’s often called.

You really don’t know or trust this chick, yet you take everything she says at face value. You may be setting yourself up to be played.

Communication with a new girl can be tricky, no doubt about it. As a chick myself, I’ll be honest and tell you we often don’t say what we mean. It’s like a minefield of words. We really should make some sort of chick translator to help you dudes out.

In an attempt to clear up some of the most commonly confused statements, I’m cluing you in with a little insider girl info.  You’re welcome!

“I’ve just got a lot going on right now.”

What she means: “I would rather spend my time doing anything else than spending time with you.”

“He’s just a friend.”

What she means: “I have hooked up with this guy before but it didn’t go anywhere” or another option would be “I am considering hooking up with him in the near future but want to cover my bets and keep you around in the meantime.”

“My friends would bore you/get on your nerves/etc”

What she means: “I don’t want you to meet my friends because either I don’t think you will be around that long or I don’t want them to tell you about the shit I usually pull on guys I date.”

“This just isn’t working for me.”

What she means:  “You’re boring the shit out of me.” Or, worst case scenario?  “You’re not getting me off.”

Women are not the easiest creatures to try and figure out.  You have my complete sympathy when trying to deal with one of us.  You would hope that if they are bothering to say something to you, that it really is as simple as the words she is saying. Unfortunately, that might not always be the case.

About the author

Lisa, aka Random Girl, is a mild-mannered professional by day, wickedly clever blogger/sex goddess/smartass by night. Lisa has very little internal filtering and is the voice behind Random Girl Blogs. She also makes fantastic chocolate chip cookies.

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6 responses to “Chick Dating Talk: Read Between The Lines”

  1. Stefan says:

    I'm kinda surprised guys need this to be spelled out sometimes but a little help with feminine translation is useful.

    I've been 'booty blinded' before and caught myself before I did something REALLY stupid.

    Thanks Lisa!

  2. Kat says:

    It's about time that Dude Society graced us with another piece of your brilliance, my darling!

    The only translation that I would debate is the "he's just a friend" one. As a tomboyish chick I've had a lot more guys friends than chick friends, and it rankles me when the guy I'm dating see my peeps as competition. I actually just had this conversation with S.O. this morning regarding male friends. I won of course. ;-)

  3. jewelsturning30 says:

    I have to agree with Kat. For me there is a VERY high chance that "he's just a friend" is the absolute and total truth. I understand that this is not the norm for most women though.
    I love the break down though. There are a ton of things we say in the "white lie" department to deflect and save hurt feelings…it's our parting gift.

  4. Radio Wright says:

    Nice term!…."Booty Blinded" lol Never heard it before! I don't mind being booty blinded, as a matter of fact, if I'm not it's probably not worth it.

    Buuut I'd never be just plain ole blind by missing what was really being said between these lines…

    P.S. This Intense Debate Commenting Plugin Sucks! It deleted my comment 5 times before I could get it posted!

  5. Dating a girl is a challenge for men, because they need to impress the girl and also know their personality and a relationship is always start with knowing each other.

  6. nick says:

    OK dating women is a challenge because everything has a sub text and they want you to read between the lines. Sure they don't wanna hurt our feelings but most guys don't pick up on subtle details. Case in point, this article!

    Just be truthful and honest how you feel instead of making us read between the lines. Because we probably won't pick it up after all men are simple creatures!

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